#My5Links

I must be the only blogger who hasn’t done this.

Here goes.

My Most Popular Post

It’s got to be Kindly Finance Your Stupid Wedding . I was tired of contributing to peoples’ weddings when there are greater causes to support like funerals and school fees for orphaned children. I was trying to put it across to star-eyed couples that weddings are not emergencies. You can save up for them and do them later. There are cheaper, legal and “holy” options of getting to live with a person instead of harassing kin, friend and foe. The post received a total 102 comments, 6,683 views and a couple of mentions on other blogs. Some financial advisers  liked it too. Needless to say, there are those who were mid prepping their weddings when they stumbled on the post and got so pissed off. But we don’t blog for love now, do we? Moving on.

The Post that Didn’t Get The Attention It Deserved

Hhmm.., this is a tough one. Most of my posts tend to be controversial partly because I try to write about what most people don’t give a 2nd thought to. Perhaps it was Get Rich or Jump Off a Cliff .

Granted, I was very new to the blogosphere and I was learning how to put my thoughts in that not-by-the-book way that blogging allows us to. The objective of this post was to get the reader to think twice about this motivational books they keep piling up. Yes, we all need some direction, but when do you stop reading these books and start writing your own story? When do Robert Kiyosaki and Rhonda Byrne stop being your motivation to live? When will you start being an inspiration to someone else? If God created you so lame, he should have given you a twin sibling life-coach to help you get to your grave a better person. It’s never that serious. Life is shitty, but it has to be lived none the less. Find your moments of happiness even as you strive to be a rich dad. Create your own secret. Something you can share with your kids and their kids. Don’t just hand down that sordid story about the monk who sold his ferrari when you’re still hanging on to your black mamba. Oh, and by the way, after reading all those books, you get what is called shelf-esteem.

The Post Whose Success Surprised Me

My new blog, Soul Spinster was just three months old when I wrote How Far Would You Go.., Sexually That Is? So I was pretty much surprised when the hits kept rising all day, taking the blog to the 5,000th mark and surpassing it too. It didn’t get as many comments, but some tweeps I talked to much later admitted that they couldn’t comment on the post because a lot of what I had written touched on their marriage life and by extension, their sex life. I have a theory -  people who read or talk about sex a lot, aren’t having as much of it as they would like to or aren’t satisfied with what they are getting. Another way to look at it.., if you’re hungry, you think about food – what to eat it and where to get it. Once you’re satisfied, you don’t think about food until you’re hungry again. This post confirmed my theory.

My Most Controversial Post

Haha!! It had to be My Position on KenyaFeb28 . This one almost got me virtually shot on Twitter. 69 comments, most of them cursing the hell out of me. I was getting quite the bashing on my TL. Subaru tweets were zooming past me faster than a WRX can take that turn on Lang’ata Road to Rafikiz. I think the funniest sub tweet was by someone claiming that I had insulted tweeps by referring to them as middle class. #iDie Yes honey, we don’t all belong to the same economic strata. There are those of us who are down here. The person who riled me enough to write about Feb28 was @Kachwanya who later hunted me down with a glass of wine when we had to talk about BAKE. We have since become good friends. Feb28 was a very simple concept. Stand up and sing the National Anthem, wherever you are on Feb 28th. Not march to town, throw stones at your enemies and burn effigies. I didn’t’ understand why people had it all misconstrued and found it difficult to pull through. I guess the measure of controversy is in how many opposing comments you get and I didn’t ignore or delete any. The one thing I’m most proud about that post is that it got people to talk openly about Feb28. And though they were initially reluctant, quite a number of tweeps came out to sing the anthem. But that was the point, wasn’t it?

The Post I Am Most Proud Of

This is not exactly a post I’d like to show my mother, but it is my favourite. I am Not Wife Material stands out or a couple of reasons. One it initiated quite a debate. Two, it revealed that quite a number of people do not know why exactly they want to get married or why they are married. Three, it gave birth to this (my very own) blog. 70 bitter comments from women trying to get their list  of 10 right. Not just right. Water tight. We had to wait a month later to get that almost perfect list. Please note, no one was winning anything but they tried. Certain things came up: While very few people won’t admit it openly, a lot of people actually marry for material gain and sexual pleasure. Funny thing is, couples don’t talk about it when the are dating or courting, but if these needs aren’t fulfilled  in marriage, it’s a big deal and reason to fight. We certainly take a lot for granted when searching for a life time partner. We say “sex is obvious, it will come by.” But shock on you! Or “yeah.., my man will provide for all my needs.” Surprise surprise honey. He may have the money but it’s going elsewhere. By getting my readers to write their list of ten, I wasn’t trying to make spinsters out of them. Far from it. I wanted them to be objective about the whole thing. To have a record that they can constantly refer to 10 or 15 years into the marriage. One they can use to ask themselves “am I still on course?” “Is this what I bargained for?” “If not, am I still happy with the change of plan?” “If I’m not happy, what can I do about it?” Thanks to all of those who commented, I have this here, my own blog.

And those, Ladies and Germans, are #My5Links. I am grateful to @egichomo for giving me an idea for a blogpost on a Monday. Tunashinda nyumba lini? LOL!  I’m also very grateful to everyone who tagged me. @ndinda_ and @IAMCousCous

For the tags, I’d like to begin with two bums who’ve been sitting on this for way too long  iCon and @misterNV. Then there’s a dude who’s been rather quiet on his blog @matrixster Yes you! You gotta do this. Now who else hasn’t done their 5 links? Ah yes, my one and only @smusyoka Dude, I know you have like 5million  blogs Lol!! Ebu fanya hii homwork ya @egichomo na hakuna kuni-dub. Ok, last person. Hhhmm @Rafiki58 she tags everyone in her posts. Today is her day to be tagged. Muhahahaha..,

I’m done !     *Chris Brown voice* (Look At Me Now)